Showing posts with label Princeton. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Princeton. Show all posts

Sunday, October 21, 2012

My Fave Five Things from Homecoming Weekend!

This past Friday and Saturday, I was back at Princeton for homecoming weekend and it was one of the best Princeton-related experiences I have ever had! Here are some of the highlights: 


1.  New Ideas for PCW! 

On Friday morning, I attended three workshops for Princeton volunteers - one on affiliated groups and the other two on event planning. I came away from both workshops with a lot of new connections and ideas for upcoming PCW programs. For example, wouldn't it be great for Princeton alumni in DC to have the opportunity to have one-off precepts and seminars from Princeton graduate alumni? In order to make this happen, I'll need to step up my efforts and ask for more help, but as Dumbledore says, "help will always be given at Hogwarts to those who ask for it."

2. Saying Hi :) 

I am so glad that I had the opportunity to check in with some of the folks who were integral to making my Princeton experience amazing.

It was amazing that I had the chance to spend a little bit of time with the my friends at Quad (including the exceptional Quad Staff: T, R, D, and N). Also on Friday, I got some invaluable life advice from A, P, and of course PFK. Finally on Saturday, before the game, I had a chance to talk briefly to HS '52 - the Founder of Sustained Dialogue.

3. The Haircut.So if you don't know by now, I have a kind of mohawk thing going on with my hair and it kind of surprised some of my old friends. One of the funnier mini-episodes that occurred this weekend happened as I was looking for my seat: someone saw me and shouted "there's Usher" - Lol












4. Princeton Beats Harvard! 

If you haven't seen this video by now, just take a look.

I have been associated with Princeton for about five years: yesterday's Princeton vs. Harvard game was one of the greatest football games I have ever seen! Princeton mounted what had to be the greatest comeback in Ivy League history - 29 points in the 4th quarter - purely EPIC.

Furthermore, I went to the game with my Quad folks and had the chance to rush the field with them at the end. And here's another cool thing about this particular game: it was special to see a lot of the senior Princeton players that I knew from my time as a Freshmen Scholars Institute RA earn such a memorable victory.

5. A Special Moment at the Aspire Dinner 

There were a lot of special moments from this weekend, but there was one that really stands out from the reception/dinner celebrating the completion of the Aspire campaign on Friday night. During the reception portion of the evening, I had an opportunity to speak with a member of the Witherspoon Street Presbyterian Church - the church I attended during college. In the company of fellow ABPA members, she told me that a presentation I gave a few years ago convinced her son to attend the W.E.B. DuBois Scholars Institute. The W.E.B. DuBois Scholars Institute is a summer academic enrichment and leadership program for minority middle and high school students that is held on Princeton's campus; I attended DuBois in 2004 and it was the first time I was really challenged and pushed intellectually. Upon hearing that this lady's son had attended and graduated from DuBois my night was infinitely boosted. It was really humbling and heartwarming to hear that something I considered small might have made a significant difference in another person's life. 

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Quick Update: I'm Bored

It's been too long since I've written a blog entry. In terms of a quick update, I'm a little bored with my life right now. Before I say why I'm bored, I consider myself fortunate to have the following: (1) a stable job with health insurance, (2) parents that are helping to save money, and (3) friends that support me and care - those are certainly things to be thankful for.

With that said, here's the reason why I'm bored: nothing in my life feels challenging right now. As much as I hated not having an income or feeling down, I think I enjoyed the struggle of searching for an opportunity. During last March, I embraced the process of searching for my break, i.e. I went all-in... and a funny thing happened: I succeeded as a Princeton Project '55 Fellow. Currently, in my fellowship/job I feel very confident in my abilities and daily performance. Moreover, as the Princeton Club of Washington's programs chair, I either directly plan/execute or supervise 3-4 programs each month, including some featuring over 100 attendees. In both of these roles, I feel as though I'll always find a way to come through and "make it happen" - and I think that's the problem. I would like to be in a situation in which I really need to push myself, but then we get to the second problem, or rather question:

What would I like to do?

I spending a lot of time thinking about what I want to do. Grad school? Business school? Something else? There are a lot of big questions here and I think that's the weakness of still living with my parents. I appreciate that my Mom and Dad (especially) are very methodical and logical folks, but I think that I listen to them to much instead of just going after things myself. I'm not talking in terms of the little things, but more so the big things such as housing and apartments. Recently, my decisions have been relatively safe and beneficial - I need to get back to taking more of those safe risks. And as far of the big risks, I need more of those too.

There's one more thing that I need to discuss (seriously) here: in a lot of ways, I'm both tightening the circle and expanding it. I'm tightening the circle by being more considerate of whom I spend my time with, reach out to, and open up with. In the past, I've been burned too many times and a lot of those instances have been unfortunate and (a little painful). Recently, it's been great having the chance to spend more time with my parents, uncles - aunts - and cousins, family friends, and close friends like MR (practically every weekend), AM (when she's free - once in a blue moon, lol), JT (even though she's across the pond), and CO (when he comes through). Also, I'm expanding the circle and meeting more people in a variety of ways. I meet a new person every time I go to a happy hour. Last week, I met LGBT and Ally Princeton alumni at a focus group dinner.

One thing that I do know is that if I want change in my life, I can achieve it if I work hard. So if I want a challenge or a change, it's just beyond the horizon :)

 

Saturday, June 9, 2012

Taking A Break

Next Saturday, the Princeton Club of Washington will be holding its 1st Annual Gala. The gala is set to be a huge event complete with an open bar and live DJ. I'm hoping that we'll have a nice turnout of 100 people or more - that would be incredible.

Also, following the gala, I plan on taking a nice extended break from Princeton-related program planning.

Think about it this way: since the beginning of the year I have organized and executed 9 PCW programs including the following:



On top of that, I manage the Club's Facebook page, tickets to events, and sometimes it's weekly newsletter. I enjoy doing these things, but I need to take a break to do some other things including: 

  1. Taking my work to "another level!"
  2. Finding my own place and moving out - it's going to happen very soon! 
  3. Doing less Princeton-related things 
  4. Meeting new people and engaging in the city 
  5. Thinking about professional development 
  6. Doing community service again :)

A few weeks ago, I wrote this blog entry about getting out of the bubble here in DC. That's going to happen soon, but first I'm going to throw one more awesome event!

And don't worry, I'll be back!




Sunday, May 20, 2012

My Life is so Princeton...

Later today, I am going to be a panelist on "Why Princeton?" for the third consecutive year. Why Princeton? is an informative panel organized by the University's Admissions Office for current D.C. area high school juniors who are interested applying to become Tigers (presumably for the Class of 2017). I always love the opportunity to represent my alma matter and appreciate programs in which I'm able to interact and help younger students. Coincidentally, this panel later today will be the second of three Princeton programs that I'll be participating in (or attending) this week. Yesterday, I went to an awesome cookout sponsored by the Association of Black Princeton Alumni and on Thursday, I am helping to execute a Princeton Club of Washington program featuring FBI Director and fellow alum Robert Mueller '66. My life is shaded in black and orange.


In fact, my life is so Princeton that it's ridiculous. Here's how:

1. I'm a Princeton Project '55 Fellow (a program that enables recent Princeton grads to work in non-profit).

2. I am the Programs Chair of the Princeton Club of Washington and organize about 3-4 events for the club per month.

3. Along with my friend AM, I'm one of the regional VPs or representatives for my Class (of 2011)

4. I am affiliated with the Association of Black Princeton Alumni (but not an official paying member yet)


It's just interesting how a lot of this stuff happens. When I moved back home to Silver Spring, I thought that I would have more time to hang out with the friends that I grew up with and maybe make new friends in the area. Moving forward, I would like to make more non-Princeton friends as well as chill more with the folks who've I known before I went to school up north; that's why Friday night was great.

On Friday night, I went to the Nationals game with my good friend MF - we played baseball together threw elementary and middle school - and we just had a blast like old times. The two of us met up with some more buddies and watched the a long ballgame between the Nats and Baltimore Orioles - the two teams that we  grew up with. It was a good night indeed.

I guess I'm writing this to say that I am not feeling nostalgic or anything, but need to "move beyond the bubble" here in D.C. People talk about "getting outside of the bubble" while in Princeton, but it also exists in the real world as well, especially if you live in Washington D.C. or New York City. Both of those regions have a strong alumni presence and it's easy to stay within that social space or circle.

2012 has already been an amazing year (and way more enjoyable than 2011) and this is in large part due to the Princeton Club of Washington and Project 55. I'm going to continue to have a strong presence in both of these organizations, but I'm also going to do my best to expand my circle.

D.C. is a large town and I have lots of people to meet; I'm looking forward to it!


Sunday, May 13, 2012

Back at Princeton… Again!


Right now, I am sitting on the floor in the train station in Trenton, New Jersey after visiting Princeton earlier today for the Project 55 Orientation. Although I was only in Princeton, and on campus, for a few hours (from 7:00 pm to 4:00 pm), I had a blast! In fact, it was probably one of the most enjoyable experiences I had in regards to returning to campus as alum! Now how could I say this when I’ve been back for Lawnparties featuring Gym Class Heroes and participated in Quad 2nd round pickups? Well, for starters, this time was much better than the last (and I won’t go into that situation), but more importantly…

It was nice and simple.

This time around, there were no lunches or dinners to arrange; no MegaBus or SEPTA to take to Philadelphia; no down-time, no shows to attend (although I’ve enjoyed supporting my friends)… this time just me, Project 55 Orientation, and a really meaningful conversation with two people who really understand me and I care about.

First off, I took a 3:15 am train from DC to Trenton (so early). When I arrived in Trenton at 5:43 am, I caught the 606 bus into Princeton just 10 minutes later. At close to 7:00 am, I came onto campus via Fitz-Randolph Gates and walked down to the Wawa for 24 ounces of caffeine. Afterwards, I met S and she let me into a common room where I had the chance to do some PCW work our upcoming event with FBI Director Mueller and a June tour of Italian artwork at the National Gallery of Art.

At 9:45 am, my Princeton Project 55 Fellowship orientation took place in the Friend Center (essentially an engineering related building). In many ways, it felt like a dream; if you told me back in November or even the beginning of March (when we had the #DoOrDieMarch – remember that?) that not only I would be a PP55 Fellow, but I would also be working in April in a position that I enjoy and find challenging - there is no way I would have believed you.  Yet a few hours ago, that’s where I was.

Before the orientation began, I had the opportunity to thank the PP55 and Alumnicorps staff for everything that they’ve done for me as well as catch up with some old friends who are also current/future PP55 Fellows. The orientation itself was great in that it was fast paced and contained a lot of information. I found myself getting along well with the other DC PP55 Fellows and cannot wait to interact with them later in the summer.

Although there were very insightful presentations on health care/taxes, networking, and the “Fellowship experience” given at the orientation, none of them compared to the best part of the orientation: reconnecting with my friend PN.

PN is one of the most compassionate and hardest working folks I know. I learned a lot from him when we were officers together in Sustained Dialogue. It’s been a while since we’ve seen one another, but I we hugged and chatted for a good five minutes or so.  The reason PN was at the PP55 orientation is that he is now one of the key staff on the Alumnicorps team and I’ll be interacting with him on a regular basis during my internship. I’m very happy for my friend because he deserves it, really cares for others, and I cannot think of anyone better to take the post. Also, I’m glad PN is in the fold because if there’s anyone who can relate to my experience over the past year, it’s him.

After the orientation, I headed straight to Quad. The first thing that happens when I walk into the door is that I get big smiles and hugs from KK and CC – quick side note: I hope they don’t mind me saying this, but KK and CC are both absolute sweethearts and wonderful people – it was great to see them! This type of welcome/greeting is something that means a lot to me because it’s nice, simple, and warm. Next, I went upstairs and met up with SO. With the help of some cushions (because the surface was SO warm), we chatted outside on the roof of Quad. Quad has a lot of nice views, but the view from the roof is the best… really beautiful.  Whenever I speak one-on-one with SO, it’s really nice because she’s someone who has known me for a while; I can be myself around her and just relax. And it’s the same way with MR, whom we chatted with on the patio of Quad as she came.

SO, MR, and I spent a good 40 minutes or so on the patio just talking. We chatted about a variety of things, but all-in-all it was great to see them. Without going into details, the three of us caught up and had a thoughtful conversation about life, friendship, and relationships. Regarding the last topic, relationships, it’s interesting to think about how the three of us have evolved and changed our perspectives via different experiences. The events of the past year or so have greatly changed my outlook on relationships, but that’s another story (or blog entry). It was great spending time with SO and MR on a beautiful day outside.  I am so glad that MR is going to be in DC for a while beginning in the summer; I’m envisioning a lot of great summer nights of me, her, and AM just chatting and relaxing on the weekend and after work.

There’s one more really nice thing that happened at Quad: I was able to see and congratulate BC in person on his law school admission – awesome stuff!

(I’m now writing this entry at 3:25 on Sunday morning)

I left Princeton at 4:00 pm and was hungry. Since the last time I visited the Trenton Transit Center a McDonald’s was added. Since I was moderately hungry (needed a little more than a snack, but not a meal), I ordered a McNuggets Mighty Kids Meal at McDonald’s (it’s like a Happy Meal, but for bigger kids). Of course, I only wanted to eat the food and did not need the toy (besides, I have a lot toys already lol – just kidding). I looked around and there was a woman eating a burger with two little boys. I went up to them and asked “excuse me, would one of you like my Happy Meal toy?” The bigger boy just took it J The woman thanked me twice (once then and again when they left). When I was a little kid, one of the most profound memoires I have is of this one time my father and I at a McDonald’s outside of Baltimore. When I got my Happy Meal, the McDonald’s ran out of toys and I was visibly upset. This guy saw me, came over to where we were sitting, and gave me his happy meal toy; this one seemingly small thing made such a big impression upon me. It’s kind of funny how those things happen…

Another funny thing that happened was seeing my friend B (from Princeton and the DC area) waiting for the train back to DC from Trenton. It was excellent fortune that we saw each other and were able to sit together for the duration of the two hour train ride. Hanging out with B on the train was a classic example of the idea that time passes quickly when you’re with good folk or good company. Once again, without going into too much detail, we had the type of nice conversation that you couldn’t have unless you were riding on a train. It was nice to spend time with B and have a great talk.

Just looking back on my day, it was awesome and special in an ordinary way. I didn’t have any big plans, but there were just nice moments spread throughout. I reconnect with old friends and gained some wonderful insights into my PP55 Fellowship.

Anyhow, I need to get some sleep; besides, I have a job now :)




Monday, April 9, 2012

April: The Season Finale?

I'm a TV fanatic and "back in the day" my two favorite shows were 24 and Smallville. Every April and May, I would watch both of these shows obsessively each week - even in college when I had major papers and other assignments due. And of course, there was the finale of both of these shows. For Jack Bauer, all of the business and chaos of the previous 22 hours would wrap up in a two-hour finale, thus concluding the day. Conversely, Smallville season finales were cliffhangers and followed a certain formula: Clark Kent would complete a villain or complete a task in the season finale, only to introduce (or strongly hint at) the villain or task  that would span the entirety of the following season. I need to explain this for those folks who never watched Smallville: At the end of the eighth season, Clark defeats Doomsday, but in that every same episode, Zod (or at least his younger clone Colonial Zod) was unleashed upon Earth and served as the primary antagonist for Season Nine. Anyway, I feel that April is going to be the finale of this "season" of my life.

I can best describe this period of my life by naming my two primary activities: (1) "Figuring things out" and (2) volunteering with the Princeton Club of Washington. In terms of "figuring things out," I now know what I want to do: pursue a public service oriented career with an emphasis on public policy and education. Although I'm not going to reveal too many (actually any) details here, I'm happy to say that I have an interview soon for a position relating to these aims and I'm pumped; I need and what this. At the moment, I'm doing my homework so I'll be prepared to "bring it" when the time comes. For months, I've spent entire days in D.C. area libraries researching and applying for opportunities - I'm tired of doing that and I'm sick of being on the sidelines... like I said, I need this! 

Secondly, since the beginning of the calendar year (2012), I've had the pleasure of serving as the Programs Chair for the Princeton Club of Washington. I've enjoyed putting together various programs for my fellow alums and meeting some amazing people. Later this month, I am going to have an opportunity to meet some more amazing people: potential members of Princeton's Class of 2016. I'm happy to say that later this month, on Tuesday April 24th to be exact, I will have the privilege of speaking to these (hopefully) new Tigers at our new admits reception on Capital Hill. Even though I've done this plenty of times before on campus at the Carl A. Fields Center, this is on another level. For five minutes, I'll be delivering remarks to these new Princetonians in front of their parents, siblings, relatives, my fellow alums, and members of Congress - this is a big deal and I'm looking forward to it! But I'm not doing this alone. If you are a Princetonian (active undergraduate or alum), you can help me by commenting on this note: https://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=10150886920249046

It looks like things are coming to a head. I know that some things never end such as continuing to "figure things out" and being a Tiger - that's for life; however, this stagnation is over. 

P.S.: This is for you NS <3: #AprilTheSeasonFinale 

Thursday, March 15, 2012

On the Way Out

"On my last day, I want to be remembered as a good guy who worked hard each day, excelled at his job, and was kind to folk. " - one of my Tweets from yesterday.

Response from my friend E: " you will be :)"

Tomorrow will be my last day working at this D.C. non-profit. At the beginning of the week I thought that the end would be a time for me to celebrate; I still think it will be, but it will also trigger some reflection. Although I realize that this is only a temporary position, I would like to think that I gave it #everythingIhave for the folks who have been good to me. Once again, Lil Wayne's lyrics come to mind:

"And if you leave, leave correct."

Those words are all about consideration. Recently, this value - consideration towards others - has been very important to me. Here's an example:

Last weekend, I kept my word to four friends of mine that I would attend their belly-dancing show back on Princeton's campus. Given my modest means, the best way for me to get back to Princeton totalled a six-hour trip for which I departed work early on Friday afternoon. Just an illustration:

3 hour bus ride from D.C. to Philly - $18.00
1 hour train ride from Philly to Trenton - $10.00
45 minute bus ride from Trenton to Princeton - $2.55

Total (plus delays and approximate waiting time) = 6 hours, $30.55 - it's still cheaper than taking the train, lol - That's 12 hours and $61.10 if you consider having to take a round trip.

Here's the cool part: I would do this again. I would forgo half-a-day's wages and a good chunk of my weekend for two reasons: (1) I can say that I kept my word and (2) it was so nice to see my dear friend of 5 years smiling and having fun - that's priceless.

One of the things that I thought about on the way home from Princeton is if I should expect other folks to show me a similar type of consideration and, after reflecting on it for a few days, I can honestly say the answer is no. We follow and live by our own beliefs because we consider them to be "the right thing to do." It is unfair to ask others to live by our exact beliefs, morals, or values. Just in terms of this idea of consideration, I've done things for others that I know they would probably not do for me and (for the most part) I'm cool with that.

But when a person or an organization shows an interest and invests in you, I think a special type of consideration is warranted: that's why I am so keen on leaving this non-profit on a strong and correct note. I cannot say enough about how amazing the people here have been to me and how they've helped to "get me back in the game." I think that if I went back in a time-machine to December and took a look at myself, I would not even recognize the man in front of me. The experience of working at this non-profit has been nothing less than empowering: there's nothing like being able to smile again.

Regarding my last entry, my friend M said something that really touched me:

"Proud of you bro. I know it can be hard to swallow your pride sometimes, and not let your ego get the best of you. It can happen to the best of us. But everything happens for a reason, even if it isn't meant to be understood. Rather, we must accept what is embrace whatever is to come."
So today, I working on completing all of my assignments and wrapping-up any loose ends. And tomorrow? I'll be showing the new person the ropes and saying my goodbyes.

And then come 5:00 pm? I might just have a single drink to celebrate, ride the Metro and bus home, and sleep.

#EverythingIHave

Saturday, February 11, 2012

Reflections on the VMs

About an hour ago, I was in the audience watching Princeton students perform the Vagina Monologues... and I deeply appreciated the show.

Honestly, I never thought that I would be in the audience of the Vagina Monologues (VMs), but I was there for two reasons (1) I'm currently back in Princeton to spend time with my younger friends and (2) some of my good friends were involved with the production including M who closed the show with a very poignant, warm performance and S who served as its director.

As it turns out, viewing the VMs was a good experience. I had a few laughs and learned a few things. When we're watching a play, TV show, or movie we don't often consider that performance as a medium of communication i.e. a way to get a certain message across to an audience. While sitting in the Forbes College BlackBox, I learned more about the ways in which women around the world are oppressed. The one particular monologue that really spoke to me was called "The Holy Ones," which was written by my friend S. Prior to the this monologue, a member of the audience read a fact this fact about female infanticide in China. Although, I have heard about this tragedy before, this was the first time I really listened: in China, many mothers make the decision to kill their female children in order to spare them from a harsh life. "The Holy Ones" is a monologue in which two unborn female babies who were left to die in a hole (hence the title) speak to the audience about what is and what could have been. During this monologue, the lights were dimmed and the actresses playing the babies were delivering their line from offstage to communicate the fact that they were not with us. This was powerful stuff and it just spoke to me. While listening to the babies, I thought of Toni Morrison's novel Beloved and how Sethe choose to kill her baby daughter in order to spare her a life in slavery.

Powerful Stuff

To reiterate, I deeply appreciated the show and the performances. For me, great entertainment (no matter what the medium is) has the ability to both illuminate and educate; this performance of the VMs got it done. 



Friday, January 27, 2012

5 Things to Consider when Selecting an Eating Club

It's that magical time of the year isn't it? The first semester is wrapping up and sophomores are deciding which eating clubs to join! I originally created this Facebook note last January, but the information here is still relevant; however, I would add three more items: (1) it's totally cool not to join an eating club, (2) If you're thinking about bickering, go for it! Don't overthink it, just be yourself!, and (3) don't sleep on Quad - I'll have more to say about that later on today.

Three years ago, I joined Quad because, I felt comfortable with it's senior class/officer corps, I had junior friends in the club, and my good buddy S from Forbes was signing-in as well... that was the best decision I made in the course of my Princeton career. I hope this note helps :)

1. Join the club in which you feel the most at home: As an upperclassman, the a significant portion of your time will be spent at the eating club that you decide to join - for the next two years, you will have most of your meals in one location. It is a good idea to make sure that you're comfortable with almost very aspect of the club, especially the membership and food. Additionally, be sure to consider the additional facilities - i.e. hangout spots, study locations, computer labs, etc. One more thing: your club is going to be the first place you come back to as an alumni...

2. There are pro and cons to joining the same club as your friends: A lot of people decide to join the same club as their friends (when I say friends, I'm talking about a group of 3-4 people) - there are both positives and negatives aspects to this process. Pros: joining the same club as your friends ensures that you'll regularly have a core group of people to eat with and (in my opinion) this is especially desirable in certain clubs. Con: Joining a different club than your core group forces you to interact with new people and thus make new friends. Keep this in mind, with meal exchanges as a junior or senior, you will be able to eat at any club in which your friends are members at almost any given meal.

3. Look out for the club's officer corps: An eating clubs' officer corps is responsible for taking care their members, i.e. you. Ideally, as a member, you'll want to join a club whose officers are friendly, visible in the club, accessible, and receptive to your concerns/criticisms. Ultimately, the officers are the individuals that are responsible for the operation and direction of the club, including the food, parties, formals, dues and a multitude of other factors - they are the people you'll need to go to if you'd like to see any change in your club.

4. Before you sign-in or bicker, do your best to learn about "sophomore status" within your club: In general, sophomore dues total up to be a few hundred dollars and a limited number of meals each week; however, the dues and sophomore membership benefits vary from club to club. For instance, certain clubs may allow sophomores to bring guests to houseparties whereas other may not. Just as a rule of thumb, I think it's a good thing to know what your getting for your money - you might even decide to delay your membership until junior year (which is practical for some clubs more than others).

5. It's cool to change your mind: In the world of eating clubs, nothing is permanent. It's cool to join a club sophomore year and reconsider your options come junior year. For instance, it is common for people who are rejected from a Bicker club to join a sign-in club for their sophomore spring and then participate in fall bicker next September/October. Another instance, is that individuals switch between sign-in clubs. Basically, there is no reason why you should remain a member of a club in which you're unhappy.

One last thing, it's not our clubs that define us, but rather who we define ourselves to be.

Quad 2011 Seniors! Wow, so many memories, so many stories... and you'll never read them on this blog because they are so not PG, lol. Seriously, I love these girls and guys!