Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Experiencing Love in Miriam's Kitchen


Sometimes the best moments in life occur when two things happen: (1) when we least expect it and (2) when we throw all caution to the wind and dive in. I’ll admit this first sentence is very cliché but it exactly describes my experience volunteering at Miriam’s Kitchen earlier this morning.

For some background, Miriam’s Kitchen is a non-profit organization that provides individualized services that address the causes and consequences of homelessness.” One of the unique aspects that I appreciate about Miriam’s Kitchen (and keep in mind, I just became aware of this today) is the holistic and individualized approach its takes towards each of its guests. This organization’s three areas of programming are meals, case management, and art as a form of therapy. In some ways, Miriam’s kitchen takes a full service approach in that they have food, activities, programs, clothing, and toiletries for their guests. More importantly, Miriam’s kitchen provides its guest with a community to go to everyday which gives them recognition: I believe that to recognize or be recognized is the greatest, most powerful type of human interaction that exists. For more information, please check out their website: http://www.miriamskitchen.org/

Now to reference the beginning of this reflection, this time yesterday afternoon, I was not planning on volunteering at Miriam’s Kitchen. As a member of the Princeton Club of Washington, I received an “urgent” email requesting volunteers to join in the contingent that we send every month to the Kitchen. In some ways this email came from “left field” and felt totally random – “we least expect it.” Next, I was on the fence because our group’s shift was from 6:00 AM to 8:30 AM. This meant that in order to get there, I would need get up at around 4:15 AM and head out for the Metro at 5:00 AM – which is when the first trains depart; I decided to throw “caution in the wind and dive in” – and it was worth it!

The first thing I noticed when I walked into Miriam’s Kitchen was that all of my fellow volunteers were white and I was the only black one. In the grand scheme of things this does not matter; however, I majored in Anthropology and African American Studies which means that I pay attention to details and people because it may speak to a larger cultural/societal trend. After this initial observation, I later asked one of the security guards who was also black if “brothers volunteered here” and he responded “all the time.”

My primary task during the day was to work the door. In this role, I was responsible for greeting each of the guests and handing them numbers that corresponded to the order in which they would be served breakfast. The 90 minutes I stood at the door, I had the opportunity to greet and interact with some genuinely awesome people. There are two people that stick out in my mind. First, there was a guest who had creative artistic skills and drew pictures of the casts of two Tyler Perry sitcoms and the Real Housewives of Atlanta. Second, there was another gentleman who came up to me and pointed me out as a college student. He asked where I attended school and I told him Princeton. Then he responded “Ok congrats, that’s a nice school” – that was a nice moment there, but fortunately one amongst many.

During my time at the door, I had the opportunity to hand out numbers and greetings to about 120 people (the others lined up early outside for numbers before I had even arrived). Each of these interactions were simply refreshing and fun. Moreover, when leaving a lot of them thanked me even though I didn’t do too much. Guests came in steadily throughout breakfast time and came together to form a type of community. In this modestly-sized room, over 100 men and women ate breakfast together. In addition to breakfast, I saw glimpses of the Kitchen’s full-service approach: the case managers making the rounds to each table, the volunteer in the corner handing out toiletries and vitamins, and the lawyer to consult with the guests. Add this visual to a soundtrack of 60’s Motown music and that’s quite an aesthetic!

All-in-all, this was a special experience for me. Aside from being my first post-college volunteer experience, it was an amazing instance of experiential learning. Although I did not talk in depth to any of the guests (being at the door, I did not have the time), my preconceived notions about homelessness in Washington D.C. were further shattered. For instance, in terms of diversity, I interacted with people of every race, men and women, people who were dressed in different ways, and veterans. In terms of the veterans and homelessness, I am somewhat sensitive to this matter because of my belief that anyone who has served our country in the military should not have to experience homelessness. I would like to learn more about this particular relationship and find out if it’s due to a failure of our Department of Veteran Affairs, or perhaps our country’s general unawareness of the issues returning soldiers face upon returning home.

I would like to thank Miriam’s Kitchen for this wonderful experience and opportunity. It was good and uplifting to see so much love – agape type love – so wonderfully generated and concentrated in one place. There was love from the guests who appreciated being recognized and loved, there was love from the volunteers who lovingly prepared and served the food, and there was love from the staff who coordinated this communal gathering – I felt the love all around (note: the blog is entitled “I am Here 2 Love”). I’m looking forward to returning in the near future.

Sunday, August 14, 2011

My Reflections on SlutWalk


(While reading, please keep in mind that these are only my reflections; I do not claim to have any expertise here)


Yesterday, I attended SlutWalk DC; it was one of the most uncomfortable and insightful experiences of my summer. Imagine just sitting poolside with your feet and part of your legs in the water. You're in the water, but you're not submerged in the pool - that was my experience attending DC's SlutWalk. I was there, but wasn't all-in.

"SlutWalk" is a worldwide movement, to amongst other things protest and reject the practice of victim blamming regarding rape/sexual-assault. Moreover one of the central missions of the movemnent is to reject the power of the word "slut" and the notion of shaming based on personal expression or lifestyle choices. For more information: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/SlutWalk

So the first question is "why did I decide to go?" There are two reasons here: (1) I support women's and LGBT rights in the sense of people should be free to express their sexuality in any manner they desire and (2) I enjoy attending cultural events (marches/protests/etc.) in Washington D.C.

I came on the scene at 11 AM for the opening rally in Lafayette Square (it's actually across the street from the White House). If I had to do this again, I would have brought a friend along; however, this time I rode solo. And instead of interacting with other attendees, I just chilled from a bench in the square. During the time between the rally and the start of the march, to the area of the program proper, I simply watched what was happening right in front of me. I saw men and women in their underwear and other revealing clothing, which made an intriguing contrast with the tourists in their uniform family reunion blue t-shirts.


In My Notebook (while sitting down during the rally): "Why am I here? I'm just sitting on a park bench,taking it all in.


When the marching began, I took a while to join in. At first, I was just going to not march and skip ahead to the stage where the program would take place, but I decided against this because walking with the people in solidarity is part of the experience. Although I marched with the people, I remained silent the entire time. While others were shouting chants such as "consent is sexy," I was silent. Once again, I took it all in - police officers on motorcycles to my left, tourists and vendors to my right, and allies/fellow marchers in front and behind. Unlike the other marchers, I had no sign in my hands or no words in my mouth.


In My Notebook (while marching): "There's a big diff btw working in a campus center for LGBT rights and marching for it"


When we came to the Sylvan Theater, there was a good 30 minutes before the speeches began. I stood around on the grass and watched people with all types of bodies and who came from all sorts of places congregate for a common purpose - a good purpose. I was captivated by the signs - all direct, most of them clever. I took photos of the signs and walked around a bit. There was an overcast in the skies...

The SlutWalk program was powerful and perhaps the greatest illustration of this power was the combination of the wind, rain, and thunder. For me these natural elements were a reflection of the power and importance of this gathering for social justice. I decided to Tweet during this program:


Tweets between me and J:



J: " @ReggieGalloway Oh man, Reggie, how did the #Slutwalk go?"

Me: "@j I'll be honest J, it's powerful to hear the testimony and strength of rape survivors - but as a man, there's something uneasy here"



J: "@ReggieGalloway I'm sure. I think it's similar to what @r told me about listening to James Cone talk about #black #liberation."



Me: "@jit's never easy for a member of the transgressive group to hear and sincerely listen to the victims but it needs to happen justice"

While writing the last Tweet, I thought about how white allies of black civil rights activists must have felt during the movement back in the 1950s and 60s. I imagine it must have been difficult for them to hear about the atrocities and injustices committed against people of color throughout the country. In my situation, as a man, it was difficult to hear the testimony of rape survivors who had been sexually assaulted. There was one testimony that particularly shook me.

Before leaving the program, I listened intently to a speaker who was thrice a victim of rape. One of the three times she detailed occurred during the 1974 Race Riots in Boston. She talked about how she – an individual who worked to end segregation – was raped by a black man. I was shook, as if she had found me, looked me in the eyes, and told me that story. And she specifically said that the racial identities do matter in this story – why? I still don’t understand that and how race specifically fits into this larger issue – because tragically, sexual assault is a global issue that occurs in all cultures and racial groups (I also still have images of black youth in London and Philadelphia fresh in my mind).


My Tweet: “Just heard the testimony of a white female rape survivor who was sexually assaulted by a black man back in the race riots of '74 - shook me”


After that, I couldn’t take any more, it was a lot to take in and think about. The rain had stopped and I put on my headphones in order to escape. I put on something familiar in order to get lost in the music – Big Sean’s “My Last.” I think that specific testimony was something that hit me from left field and disrupted my understandings of the complicated interactions between black men and white women; it was the realization of the worst possibilities of miscegenation from D.W. Griffith’s A Birth of a Nation: the black savage man ravaging the pure white female. Big Sean’s lyrics offered me a moment of escape and fantasy (and ironically, its chorus is sung by Chris Brown):

Looking back on the Slutwalk, I’m glad I went. I learned a lot about how our society creates and perpetuates the conditions in which victims of rape and sexual assault are held partially responsible for what happens to them because of how others perceive them – and of course this is wrong. Self-expression is a right and no one’s body should be threatened as a result of exercising that right. I think the best way we can help is with two practices:


1. Zero-Tolerance for unwanted sexual advances.

2. Letting go of our preconceived notions and stereotypes regarding what a “slut” (clothing, sexual behaviors, etc.). For the most part, these are unfair burdens/double-standards placed upon women and even though it’s going to be difficult, these need to go.


Thanks for Reading.

Thursday, August 4, 2011

Reggie's Slow Jams


First off, I'm back and (believe or not) I graduated!

In college, I did almost everything I wanted to. One of things on my list, that I never got to do was to make a slow jams playlist and exchange it with my friends. When I originally had this idea, I was thinking about composing a playlist of the most ridiculous, over-the-top songs just for fun. The type of song that would have made this original list would is Prince's "Do Me Baby" - which is actually a great track, but it's just really too much. Here's the thing: during the course of college, I fell in love and began to realize that a great slow jam can really capture and express sincere emotions of love (while being a great soundtrack to.... lol).

Also just thinking about it, the name of the blog is I am Here 2 Love so... makes sense :)

With that said, here are 5 of my favorite old school and contemporary slow jams (in no particular order):

Old School:

  • "The Lady in My Life" - Michael Jackson (Thriller)
http://bit.ly/Lxq8r - "I promise you tonight that you will always be the lady in my life..." This is MJ at his smoothest and most tender!

  • "I'll Make Love to You" - Boyz II Men (If)
http://bit.ly/9urq5Y - "Girl your wish is my command, I submit to your demands..." The thing about Boyz II Men is that they always gave the ladies what they want.

  • "The Beautiful Ones" - Prince (Purple Rain)
http://bit.ly/m8pK07 - "What's it goin' to be baby, do you want him or do you want me? Cause I want you!" This is one of my favorite Prince tracks and it's awesome because he lays it all on the line (honestly, how many of us guys do that?)!

  • "Let's Get It On" - Marvin Gaye (Let's Get It On)
http://bit.ly/DdJ2N - "Let's Get It On" It's THE song, the Standard, nuff said


  • "Something" - The Beatles (Abbey Road)
http://bit.ly/6CwsTm - "Something in the way she moves attracts me like no other lover" This George Harrison (Beatles) track is a bit different in that the singer is not directly addressing his love interest, but it's probably the Beatles' greatest love song and in their top 10 overall songs.

New School (No song quotations for these)

  • "Shut it Down" - Drake feat. The Dream (Thank Me Later)
http://bit.ly/cl6Le3 - Drake and The-Dream: a lethal combination!

  • "You and I" - Lady Gaga (Born this Way)
http://bit.ly/qgrvWQ - I love this track because it's about two people who have been together and together through a journey. This is also a great bar songs and example of storytelling in music.

  • "There Goes My Baby" - Usher (Raymond v. Raymond)
http://bit.ly/cpTF51 - Usher just takes it to another level here - everything here is perfect!

  • "Customer" - Raheem DeVaughn (Love Behind the Melody)
http://bit.ly/qLffGS - Please pay attention here! Raheem DeVaughn just doesn't get enough credit for what he does, i.e. he makes all his music for the ladies. Once one of his slow jams is played, it's game over.

  • "Until the End of Time" - Justin Timberlake feat. The Benjamin Wright Orchestra
http://bit.ly/3Q522y - JT is talking about commitment; big thing there pal, especially when it's until the end of time and all that, lol

That's my list! Thanks and I hope you've enjoy reading!